My family comes first. I also have a commitment to my employer to get my job done and (along with my Husband) provide for our family. I have learned over the past couple years that I cannot take on too much outside of my priorities. But that is the hard part. What are my priorities? How do I establish what a priority is? I have decided that a priority is anything that benefits my families quality of life, health and happiness. If it doesn’t fit into one of these categories, it doesn’t fit into our life. Bottom line. Even this month I have had to say no to a volunteer opportunity that I wanted to say yes to, but in the end I knew I would be over extending myself. And probably have a messy house for 6 months until the “opportunity” was finished. By figuring out what my priorities are, I have been able to say no to the things that didn’t add to our life. And that’s another thing, it’s not MY life now that I’m married with kids. It is OUR life. Everything I do affects my Husband and children. I don’t want to be so stressed at the end of the day that I can’t spend time with my Husband after the kids go to bed because I have more work to do or need to go to bed at 8pm. Who does that anyway? 😉 And what would I be trying to prove? To whom?
If you are starting to feel overwhelmed, think about the origin of your stress. Is it valid stress or is it because of a personal choice you have made? Are you taking on too much? Be encouraged to create priorities in your life that influence all of your choices, events and day to day tasks to create a happy and healthy life for your family. That is what I am trying to do.