Okay, so I don’t have any experience with a fight about sex. But I have learned, in the short years that I’ve been married, how to keep our sex life “happy.” And I’m not talking about positions or “making it last longer.” You know what I’m talking about. Those nights (or mornings) when your partner starts cuddling a little more, maybe kissing your neck or rubbing your back and you just want to sleep because you’ve been working all day and folding laundry all night. I don’t mean to stereotype, it may be that you are the one that is always wanting more, it is just usually men have a higher sex drive than women. Well, I’ve discovered a few ways to keep our sex life regular and even fun! Even with 4 kids and 2 full time jobs. 🙂
The first being something a friend of mine told me, it is something that her Mom told her before she got married. She said there are the 3 types of sex in a relationship. The 3 R’s. Recreational, Romantic and Release. I taught my husband about these 3 kinds of intimacy and he loved it! It really helps when we haven’t been intimate in a week because of our schedules, so then when we finally do it’s Release. So, now we always make it Recreational or Romantic the next time. It really helps keep balance so we don’t feel like we are having sex to just have sex.
Another thing that improves our intimacy is self-confidence. It’s easy to look at US Weekly or People magazine, and not think positively about our bodies. After children, THINGS CHANGE. But you know what? Your marital intimacy is not just about your body. It’s about your attitude. And the way you act and treat your own body. When you take care of your own body, it’s attractive. So exercise, eat well and moisturize! 😉 But seriously, be confident. Your partner loves you for you.
Lastly, I think one of the hardest parts of fitting intimacy in is just doing it! Sometimes, even when I don’t completely feel like it, but my husband does, or vice versa…I’ve learned that I will warm up if I just get going if you know what I mean. And I’m always happy when I do. And I know you will be too!