First of all, Happy Mother’s Day weekend to all the Moms! You should know that whether you are a stay at home Mom, step Mom, employed Mom, momprenuer, bonus Mom, whatever…YOU deserve to have one day each year that you are celebrated and thanked. I know all of you Moms give endlessly of your time and love. So have a fabulous weekend!
I want to talk about being a step Mom on Mother’s Day. When I was married several years ago, I not only married my husband but his two boys as well. My choice to get married meant becoming a step Mom. And it came with it’s challenges, believe me. I’m not going to get into all of that. I’ll save it for another post. But I do want to encourage the other step Moms that read my blog.
Tonight, I took one of my step sons to the store to pick out a gift, flowers and a card for his Mom. I knew that it would be special for him to be able to give her a gift that he picked out all on his own. I know I like surprises, so I thought she would too. Now I have to say, their Mother is not my best friend. 😉 And my husband and his boy’s Mom may not always agree or get along. But that doesn’t mean she isn’t a good Mother that loves her boys. She deserves a gift.
I want to encourage all the step Moms out there to give up expectations and be pleasantly surprised when your step children show love and gratitude for you. It is important to realize that your step children may feel like they may hurt their own Mother’s feelings by celebrating their step Mom. Or they may not think of making a card for their step Mom if they are young. Please don’t be disheartened. It takes time to bond with step children and blend a family into one loving unit. It. Takes. TIME. So spend time with your children, your step children, your husband and know that even if you aren’t celebrated exactly like a biological Mom may be celebrated, you are a shining light in your child’s life and you are loved and appreciated. I know I am.