The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. Isn’t that what everyone says? I was at Safeway this weekend and an older woman whose kids were obviously grown, said to me, “They grow up so fast, you’ll miss this time.” And yes, I completely agree. My older son is almost 8. My stepsons are 6 and 13. My baby is 20 months! So I get that they grow up and I’ve already forgotten memories I’m sure. But I can’t help but wish for one morning a month that I don’t have to have a 6am wake up call by my toddler. I long for one morning a month that I can sleep in until 8am and then enjoy a cup of coffee with a magazine on the couch while gazing out the window into my neighborhood.
I know that I need to cherish these bittersweet memories of my children growing up. I will have those quiet mornings someday. And then I will long for a 6am wake up call from my toddler. This parenting thing sure is tough sometimes.
I think the key is balance and asking for help. My husband and I try to share the morning routine responsibilities as much as possible, but the stereotypical gender role of the Mother always creeps in. I believe that women have a nurturing spirit for a reason. Children need their Mama and it seems that we have instincts to be the prime caretaker for our children. Which makes it tough as a working Mom. But you know what? We can do it successfully and with grace! I believe that we need to ask for help when we need it. If I am exhausted and need an extra half hour of sleep on a Sunday morning, then I need to nudge my husband to get up with the kids. I believe that in order to take care of others, we must take care of ourselves.